Amen! I so remember Kate Reddy bec back then, I was a senior exec by day and making Ben 10 sugar fondant figures by night, just so my son could have the birthday cake of his dreams. Wow - I was so nuts that I didn't even notice how crazy I was. Guilt does that to you. I'm so with you in this crusade because like you, I have a beautiful daughter who I hope does not have to put up with the sexism, ageism, racism, and all the isms we encountered. More power to you and noon.
This all rings so true! Just going along with so much offensive ‘banter’ or shaking off worse behaviours. I feel so sad for my teenage/twenty-something self. 😢
So glad it resonates for you - I was really scared about writing about this. It is hard to admit one’s own colliusion with how things were. I am just really glad that my own daughters won’t have to go through this!
OMG Thank you so much for writing that Eleanor. It's like you've taken what's been in my head for years and written it down so it makes sense! I'm loving all things Queenager and Noon. It's great to know there are others out there, who have been working their arses off in demanding jobs whilst running around like a nut trying to be a great Mum and role model too. It's exhausting and when I look back a bit bonkers to be honest. I am determined my daughter will get more support and understand her worth.
I really hope it will be different for our daughters. When I look back now it seems crazy that we just went along with so much of this... but at the time if you wanted to be in the club that was the price of entry... so many things were like that. We were sold such a lie - there wasn't really equality, we were just allowed into the room... and there is still a long way to go! Thanks for kind words re Noon! xxx
Amen! I so remember Kate Reddy bec back then, I was a senior exec by day and making Ben 10 sugar fondant figures by night, just so my son could have the birthday cake of his dreams. Wow - I was so nuts that I didn't even notice how crazy I was. Guilt does that to you. I'm so with you in this crusade because like you, I have a beautiful daughter who I hope does not have to put up with the sexism, ageism, racism, and all the isms we encountered. More power to you and noon.
This all rings so true! Just going along with so much offensive ‘banter’ or shaking off worse behaviours. I feel so sad for my teenage/twenty-something self. 😢
So glad it resonates for you - I was really scared about writing about this. It is hard to admit one’s own colliusion with how things were. I am just really glad that my own daughters won’t have to go through this!
It is only when I look back and compare that I realise how tough it was!
I too used to bake muffins before work to prove I was still a good mum for the school bake sale!
OMG Thank you so much for writing that Eleanor. It's like you've taken what's been in my head for years and written it down so it makes sense! I'm loving all things Queenager and Noon. It's great to know there are others out there, who have been working their arses off in demanding jobs whilst running around like a nut trying to be a great Mum and role model too. It's exhausting and when I look back a bit bonkers to be honest. I am determined my daughter will get more support and understand her worth.
I really hope it will be different for our daughters. When I look back now it seems crazy that we just went along with so much of this... but at the time if you wanted to be in the club that was the price of entry... so many things were like that. We were sold such a lie - there wasn't really equality, we were just allowed into the room... and there is still a long way to go! Thanks for kind words re Noon! xxx
Brilliant! You've captured the dichotomy of our hard-earned and not complete equality.
"we were told that women had equality. What they really meant was; you are in the room, right? What more do you want? Shut up and be grateful!"
It has taken me 25 years to realise that! Glad it resonates
What a fantastic piece really sums up some experiences I’ve been having lately.