When it comes to sex, I'm so glad I am 50 not 20... here's why
Thanks! Made my head spin as a 56 year old American. I don’t have children so I’m out of the loop. It concerned me greatly when it became fashionable to be clean shaven, that seems to me to be trying to appear prepubescent. I have jumped out of bed and ran off when anal sex was expected. That is not sex to me. Then Many years abstinent . I’m recently married again & my husband’s blood pressure(lisinapro) medicine interferes with things. American doctors don’t care about the side effect, they just sell more vigra ( causes dangerous dizziness) .
I’m glad you are able to communicate with your children. If I were young, a signed consent is a sadly good idea. Americans watched the circus of Amber Heard Lying about Johnny Depp . She was the actual abuser, not Mr Depp. I hope the court charges her with perjury or more young women will think it’s okay to lie and ruin a man’s life through slander.
I’m fortunate to have left an abusive marriage years ago and got counseling for ptsd. Help isn’t that easy to get & the insurance company doesn’t let you see the therapist long enough… I’d just be starting to trust them & insurance said I was at the limit.
Please stop. It’s bad in one way or other. I’ve been raised in time and place when sex in movies or tv was tabu - so it was tabu for me. I don’t know how to speak with my partner about my preferences, there are times when sex is something embarrassing for me, because it was when I was growing up. It shouldn’t be like that either. Sex should be normal, because it is normal, since teenagers. Not promote, not tabu. Normal.
Amber heard isn’t the abuser. As a survivor yourself, have some compassion.
Scary stuff. To support your argument, I have two children, 13yo girl, 14yo boy and I'm way more concerned about my son being accused of something than I am about my daughter being assaulted. Not that I'm in any way complacent or unconcerned about the latter; more that I've heard similar stories to Jimmy's and it seems dire consequences are meted out with just an accusation which seems like a reverse witch hunt to me! At least if we speak to our daughters they can do things to keep their boundaries intact.
I also agree about the porn being an issue and we have tackled this by being extremely open with our children about sex. Being married to a German helps because I think, in the UK, people are generally more reluctant to speak openly at home about sex than perhaps on the Continent.